The law of attraction can seem like total hocus pocus magic sometimes. You’re like all I have to do is think very, very hard about my dream pony, feel like I am riding it into the sunset and then poof somehow it shows up on my doorstep??? Are you sure I’m not missing a step (like bugging my dad endlessly until he buys me one)? If you’ve been around the sun a few times, you’ve learned that magic isn’t always what it’s cracked up to be. Maybe you’ve begun to see how much of the magic in the stories that adults tell you is something they made up. The law of attraction isn’t like that. I don’t know why it works or how, just that it does. But I’m not actually here to convince you about its value or its reality. I’m not even here to tell you to trust it… Then what am I trying to do? We’ll get to that but first a quick review of how the law of attraction is supposed to work.

The basics of the law is that what you think about and how you feel matches what comes into your life. The second part—how you feel—is where a lot of people get off track. So when you visualise what you want and it feels so real that you don’t even care whether the visualisation comes true or not, you are about to manifest it in your life. This is because the feeling you are holding is one of satisfaction and fulfilment—feelings that are hard to hold when half your mind is wondering when your goodies are getting here. What a lot of people (newbies and oldies) forget is that they can repeat an affirmation until they’re blue in the face, but unless it feels good to them and really puts them in the mental space of having what they desire, it will give them a whole lot of nothing except frustration and disappointment. All this to say that the law of attraction responds to how you feel and in a potentially frustrating twist of events, trying too hard to apply what you know about the law of attraction can work against you.

Ultimately what you want is to feel good. That’s why you want anything. There are certain people, objects and experiences you associate with feeling good but when you prioritise them over your feelings, you are missing the point. So it goes with the law of attraction. We have seen that the most powerful thing you can do to get more of what you want is to feel good. If that’s what you actually want, in a way, who cares about whether the law of attraction is real or not? You already got what you were looking for. This attitude, which takes focus away from your potential doubts about the law, is what makes the law work best. When it’s about feeling good, you don’t need processes, you don’t need rules and formulas. Sure they can be fun to explore and try out (even the rules and formulas!) but the essential part—feeling good—is taken care of.